bitchesa moment number one for 2011

i'm making my new year's resolutions as i go. besides making an effort to be more mindful of what i say, i will, however, also make an effort to say things now, because they have to be said... and here is one of those things...

mader mcvie pointed it out, and rather than comment on his post, i'd rather rant in mine... well, RANT is such a negative word.

"life is unfair." on the contrary "life is very much fair. those who can't seem to see that are just too self absorbed or myopic... because stupid is such a negative word." and i believe this to be an absolute truth. i have had my fair share of misfortunes come about me. so many that i believe that it had affected my general view of how my life rolls, in which case was down in a rather steep hill. that view however was back then, back when it was far easier, and even, shall i say, empowering to feel justified in my misery. how could life be so unfair, i thought, that i was stuck and others were not? that i was unhappy, while others were not.

mcvie said it aptly, it really boils down to choice. in this case, a choice of perspective, the entire "half-empty, half-full" cliche. that's one way of seeing it. here's another way, life is really fair. life is fair, as joy can be fleeting, so can sorrow. as misery can be deliberating, love and passion, empowering. light and night, darkness and day. intelligence and... well, that other negative word. see, balanced and fair.